What defines Cheating?

There has been some major drama in my group of friends the last week.
My close friend Michelle has been dating a guy named Rob for 6 years. She was very much in
love with him, and was patiently awaiting the day he would ask her to marry him. Now, Michelle got transfered to another restaurant in January, so her concentration was pretty well focused on her new position, and her busy schedule for a time. Her boyfriend was himself pretty busy with work, and they didn't get to spend as much time together as she would have liked. Rob, however, decided he needed to do some socializing, and began hanging out with one of our friends, Heather. They went out for coffee and to the movies and for the occasional dinner, what else, i'm not sure, because i'm not them, but michelle tried to see it as just her good friend hanging out with her boyfriend, and nothing else. And maybe thats all it was then.

The past month, however, has seen a strain on Rob and Michelle's relationship. He became extremely distant, and when he did talk to her, it was to argue and bicker about things. Rob began to do weird things, like get a separate bank account from michelle, and go long hours in her presence without speaking a word to her. She just figured he needed some space, and let it go. But after a few days of this, she could no longer stand the pain he was causing her. She confronted him, and asked him what was going on. In a quick, blunt, conversation, he told her she was not the person he wanted to marry or be the mother of his children, he wasn't inlove with her, and that he was done, and their relationship was done.
Michelle took this pretty hard, and she phoned her close friends for support. We all responded immediately, trying to help her get through this. Except one of us. Heather. Michelle kinda got nervous at this fact, but decided that she just may be busy. A friend and I looked at each other upon hearing this, and knew, something just wasn't right.

Finally, with nothing back from rob or heather, michelle confronted them both. Aparantly they love each other, and have been seeing each other for weeks and saying they loved each other. But because they did nothing physical, rob didn't cheat on michelle, and heather didn't steal her boyfriend, according to them. They expect michelle to "get over it" and just "accept" them. They see nothing wrong with the fact that they were exchanging love e-mails while rob and michelle were away at his cousins wedding. Ya, he took her to a family event a week before smashing her world to pieces. While she was thinking, this will be us soon, he was thinking, how soon can i get to my laptop to e-mail heather back? And this is the biggest kicker. Heather is mad at michelle for telling our friends what happened. She says now she feels like everyone hates her, and she gets stressed at work. What, thats it? well i guess we're not doing our job as friends, maybe i should be egging your house and shredding the tires on your car for what you're doing to MY friend, you evil, two faced..... relationship wrecker......well, thats just how i feel. But what do you think?

If you EMOTIONALLY cheat on someone, isnt' that cheating? is that not being unfaithful, when you're sharing you're love and feelings with someone other than your girlfriend for the past 6 years??

I'd really like to know, so I can tell Heather exactly why none of us would like to be her friend right now, because she ripped michelles' heart out of her chest and took a nice big juicy bite, and then cries, I ain't no canabal!

Foundations

Foundations

We'll have a place in the world,

Away from the world,

No matter where we have to be.

We'll be you and me,

we'll really run free,

It'll be as it should be.

No more wrong or right,

or all about that last fight.

Past will fade;

Future will take a vacation

and present will be you and me.

We'll share our place

in the world.

Away from the world.

Could be's and might be's will

fade with the memories.

Left with just what is,

It'll be you and me.

Not the rest of the world,

We'll make our own world.

Younger Years

As promised, a picture of baby kurtis kissing a puppy. On top of that, a few cute pictures of us all when we were little.

Just like his big sister

I just thought I'd let everyone know that Kurt just found out that he too has been accepted by Ottawa U. He'll be taking the Classics program, which is a mixture of ancient history, modern history, and cultural studies.

I would list his classes like I did mine, but being a first year, he hasn't gotten to pick them yet. Lucky for him, he doesn't have to try and figure out the registration navigator all by himself: cause i've already been through it a couple times.

SO congrats again little bro....now we just have to make sure we end up on the same dorm floor, so I can continue to bother you...you think you're escaping 18 years of torture that easily? BAH

Acceptance and Choices

I found out on friday that i've been accepted into the History Honours program at Ottawa U.
It was such a relief to find this out. Many of you know I've been waiting anxiously for this response.

Also, I've chosen all my classes today! Yay! I figured I would let everyone know what it is I would be taking, so you can be prepared for my yammering about certain classes/topics:

Fall classes are as follows:
History--NEW FRANCE
History--THE REPUBLIC (the start of rome)
English--World Lit in English
English--Children's Lit
Art--General Art History
Philosophy--Reasoning and Critical Thinking
There are 6 classes, because I have one more class to catch up, so that I end this year with a full 2 years finished. Also, I had already registered for Art History, when I realized i needed a Philosophy class, and just didn't want to give it up, therefore, another reason for the 6.

Winter classes are as follows:
Philosophy--Great Philosophers
History--British North America 1763-1867
History--History of the USSR
History--Athens, Persia and Sparta
English--Fantasy, Myth and Language

Now, I'm quite excited about this line up of classes, not only because I have a great interest in every one i chose, but I also managed to get into the fantasy novel class which only accepts 35 students each term. My high english grades this past semester helped me get in! Very happy!

So there you have it folks, everything I'm taking!

I actually can't wait for school to start, imagine that! Working is really getting to me.

Road users BEWARE

Anyone and Everyone caught on the roads today is in mortal danger.

Yes, its true, Kurtis is going for his roadtest at 11:15am Pacific time.

YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED!


hehehe....Good luck little brother!

And yes, that is Ryan and kurtis driving together: the epitome of nightmares

Noses in the Air

I'm not a great lover of certain personality traits. Angry people, Depressed people, and most especially, snobby people.

I positively cannot stand being around humans who believe themselves to be superior to those with less than them in their eyes.

Example: Knowing my brother Kurtis probably doesn't read my blog, I am going to use some of his friends in my example of snobs: The other day, two of his guy friends and two of his girl friends came over to our house. They were hanging out in the livingroom, trying to decide what it is they were going to do with their evening. While Kurt discussed this with 2 of them, one of the girls sat on the couch, looked over at one of her friends and mumbled, i have couches like these, but in my basement...gross...and her friend laughed. Unfortunately for miss princess, I was standing right behind her, and she noticed, looked at me, and then looked away, very embarassed.
One thought passed through my head: If you're too good to sit on my beat up old couch, then get the hell out of my house. I pretended I didn't hear her.

Many people believe the only thing that matters in life is acquiring more things, and making sure everyone around them knows how well off they are.

I have always been taught that nothing is worth more than self respect and treating others with unfailing kindness.

And that is exactly how I will continue to live, loving every moment I get to spend with the people around me, cherishing the memories of building a fort with Kurtis using those old couch cushions, and not reflecting on the fact that my couch looks old.